Feelings When Our Needs Are Met

adventurous

affectionate

alive

amazed

appreciative

calm

centered

comfortable

compassionate

confident

content

curious

delighted

eager

encouraged

energetic

enthusiastic

excited

fascinated

free

fulfilled

glad

grateful

happy

hopeful

inspired

interested

intrigued

joyful

lively

marvelous

motivated

moved

optimistic

peaceful

playful

pleased

proud

relaxed

relieved

safe

satisfied

strong

surprised

thankful

thrilled

touched

trusting

 

Feelings When Our Needs Are Not Met

afraid

angry

annoyed

anxious

ashamed

bewildered

bored

bothered

concerned

confused

depressed

desperate

disappointed

discouraged

disgusted

dismayed

distressed

drained

dread

embarrassed

envious

exasperated

exhausted

fearful

fed up

frustrated

furious

grumpy

guilty

hesitant

hopeless

horrified

hostile

hurt

impatient

insecure

irritated

jealous

lazy

lonely

lost

miserable

moody

nervous

numb

overwhelmed

pessimistic

regretful

reluctant

resentful

sad

scared

sensitive

shocked

shy

sickened

stressed

surprised

suspicious

tense

terrified

tired

torn

uncertain

uncomfortable

unhappy

unsafe

unsatisfied

unsure

upset

vulnerable

worried

 

Needs and Values We All Have

acceptance

achievement

acknowledgement

adventure

affection

appreciation

authenticity

autonomy

balance

beauty

celebration

choice

clarity

closure

comfort

communication

community

compassion

confidence

connection

consideration

contribution

cooperation

creativity

dignity

ease

emotional safety

empathy

empowerment

equality

exercise

fairness

freedom

friendship

fun

growth

harmony

health

help

honesty

hope

humor

independence

inspiration

integrity

intimacy

justice

knowledge

learning

leisure

love

meaning

mourning

mutuality

nurturance

nutrition

order

participation

patience

peace

physical security

play

power in our world

privacy

progress

purpose

reassurance

recreation

reliability

respect

rest, sleep

safety

self-acceptance

self appreciation

self-determination

self-esteem

self-expression

sexual expression

shared reality

solitude

space

stability

success

support

to belong

to be heard

to have our intentions
understood

to matter

to be seen for who we are

trust

understanding

well-being

 

Examples of strategies often mistaken for needs: attention, control, money, obedience, praise, punishment, punctuality, revenge, time and to be right.